Cybersex has become a common practice and a replacement for the real
thing. New moral issues have surfaced from this innovative form of lovemaking.
Whether cybersex is cheating, is the question that will remain a worry
for Generation X.
TMost men who work in big corporations have experienced some form of cybersex
with a co-worker and sometimes even with total strangers. Cybersex, to be precisely
defined, is the art of having suggestive verbal sexual intercourse without any
physical contact.
Basically, by typing away on a keyboard, a man and a woman can experience
virtual sex and near euphoria. It can relieve stress usually associated
with sexual encounters and provides a source of security for insecure
individuals.
Most men and women consider cybersex to be cheating. In general, most
men would take this sexual opportunity and deal with the regrets and
remorse of cheating on a loved one later. Obviously every man is innocent
until proven guilty. Until then, it is still a virtual act with no consequences.
Maybe once faced with the opportunity, many men would decline the offer
while thinking of their spouse.
The very idea of vulgarizing secret fantasies in writing to someone
else other than your spouse means your relationship is probably not satisfying
your needs completely. It means some of the primary needs are not being
fulfilled and the couple needs to patch up differences.
At this point, cybersex could be considered healthy if carried only
to the first level. It is fair to say that men in general need the feeling
of a challenge, and virtual sex provides them with this healthy challenge.
Cybersex is also a form of online entertainment. The challenge of arousing
someone of the opposite sex can create excitement and a reason to come
to work in the morning.
The level of intensity with which the cyber flirting is conducted, should
be a good benchmark to evaluate whether or not cheating is involved.
If messages remain within the limits of simple compliments, then there
shouldn't be any worry and consequences; in fact it can actually be healthy.
On the other hand, if e-mails during cybersex become too explicit and
graphic when you are already dating, the issue can be more debatable
and worrisome. So good luck and have fun! But be cautious!
