You're successful, you have a good job, you own a nice car, and you make a good salary. So why are still single?

One reason may be that you are probably too shy to take a risk, and flirt with the locals. The chances that a woman approaches you and says, Excuse me, I find you cute. Would you like to go out for coffee? are very slim.

Therefore, it's up to you to initiate some kind of contact. You have to be proactive. Don't expect things to come to you in life. You have to go out, and get what you want. So how do you do it?

The first step, is to find out if she is interested in you. This can be revealed by flirting. If she joins in on the game, and flirts back with you, then you can assume that she is interested. All you have to do is approach her, be charming to captivate her, and close the deal by getting her number.

How to Flirt

Before you start flirting, it is important that you understand the essence of flirting. Flirting is all about interest, and a man should never flirt with a woman that he doesn't want to get to know a little bit better.

A man who flirts with a woman who he is not interested in is only wasting his time. Women have great instincts, and can easily detect when someone is not sincerely interested. Successful flirting only works when there is a mutual attraction.

Flirting involves being confident, playful, fun, and mysterious. Flirting means involving your whole body. Talking the talk, without walking the walk, is ineffective. Don't believe me? Try telling a woman she is beautiful, then look away, and see if she believes you.

You have to use all the tools of body language (i.e. eye contact, smiling, being attentive, playing, touching, etc..), and combine them together to show that you really are interested in her.

Unsuccessful flirting is often the result of being too sexual, too eager to flirt with just about anyone, and too self-absorbed. To make sure that you know how to have a little fun next time you meet someone, just follow these steps:

1. Take a chance: Flirting, by nature, means being active. Nothing will happen if you sit back, and wait for someone to flirt with you. Take a chance. Who doesn't like a little flirting?

2. Lock Eyes: Don't stare or gawk for too long, but do connect your eyes to hers, and you may have a better chance of meeting her. Playfully looking at someone in the eyes is very compelling - it makes a person feel like they've got your undivided attention. Don't look like your trying to remember whether or not you fed your dog.

3. Be interested: Paying genuine attention to her is a great place to start. There are few things sexier than someone who's totally into you.

4. Flattery: An honest appraisal of what you really feel about this person is a big turn-on, but false praise is a total turn-off.

5. Play: Flirting is fun, so do not be afraid to tease and giggle.

6. Touch: Brush arms, bump knees, and tweak noses.

7. Smile, don't smirk: Smile openly and sincerely - it's irresistible.

8. Don't think you can't do it: Anyone can flirt, even if only for a little while. Practice makes perfect, and remember, you don't have to be smooth, only sincere.

9. Enjoy yourself: Flirting is supposed to be fun, and when you're having fun, it's easier to convince her to play along with you. Remember, flirting should be enjoyable, not difficult, like trying to defuse a bomb.

TOP flirting MISTAKES:

A lot of people think that flirting is a waste of time. That's because they go about it the wrong way. When you flirt, make sure to keep these rules in mind:

1. Don't play the little boy routine (helpless and innocent; it can get annoying pretty fast).
2. Don't be slick.
3. Don't be negative.
4. Don't play stupid.
5. Don't act silly (i.e. straws up your nose).
6. Don't whine.

The next time you're at a friend's gathering, or even the pub next to your work, don't be afraid to flirt with the sexy woman who catches your eye. Whatever you do, don't sit in your little corner. You never achieve anything if you don't try. Remember, if you want to meet someone, it all starts with flirting.