Two is a company. Three's a crowd
Group hug ? Not today ! If they wanted to date your friends, roommate, or co-workers,
they'd have gotten their phone numbers too. They want to go out with ( and
get to know ) you so don't make it a party. With one-on-one, the focus is
on each other. You're an adult so it's not necessary to bring a chaperone.
If safety is a concern, however, meet in a public place like a restaurant
or mall. Let a friend know where you're going, with whom and when you expect
to be home.
Choose a dating activity that allow you to have the best time together
Three hours in a darkened theater without talking is not a good way to get
to know someone. Taking your date, who is a vegetarian to a steakhouse won't
impress him anymore than if you starve him. Taking your date to a double-header
baseball game when it's 95 degrees with 90 percent humidity won't thrill
her as much as the fantastic water park across the street.
Be on time
Being late says, "I'm not that interested in impressing you." Need
we say anymore ? Canceling a date at the last minute, short of having a really,
really good reason is unacceptable. It's like ordering your favourite meal
at a restaurant only to be told that the particular item is not available.
Your expectations were heightened, then crushed.
If you use too much "I" and "Me", you'll never get to
say "We"
If you dominate a conversation with the word "I", the relationship
will surely die. People want to learn indirectly how wonderful you are, not
hear it directly from you. Being a legend in your own mind will bore your date
and prove you wrong. If you constantly talk about yourself, you'll learn nothing
about your date. On the other hand, people like to talk about themselves because
they think they know the subject well. Give them a chance to talk !
Don't oversell
While people love hearing how wonderful they are, a constant barrage of compliments
can make them uneasy. If you constantly praise a date in a effort to "close
the deal", he or she won't perceive you as real. Your credibility will
be questioned, as they won't be able to differentiate between a true compliment
and a butter-up line.
